Hello from the quake zone š
As a resident of the Center of the Universe, New York City, I of course experienced the earthquake + aftershock that rattled our marvelous city on Friday. I was sitting in bed preparing for a work meeting, someone had just rung a doorbell in the building, and suddenlyā¦everything was shaking.
When I tell you my first thought was āhow is that delivery person doing this?ā followed swiftly by āI didnāt know NYC had earthquakes?āā¦listen. It was a shocking experience! I was shook! Literally as well as figuratively!
Anyway, that was Friday. Now itās Sunday. Time to move on, I suppose. This week weāve got an odd one ā itās a week I should be running a Q&A, but for reasons I had to push that to next week, so this week youāre getting an essay. Kind of like an expanded āfrom the heart,ā something Iām trying to do more of. Just focus on one topic and go ham. Letās see where this leads us!
An essay on worthwhileness š£ļø
I think a lot about numbers, to my own detriment.
I think about numbers in terms of social media ā how many followers do I have? Did I gain any, lose any? How many people liked my tweet, commented on my instagram, reposted me on threads?
I think about numbers when it comes to writing ā how many words did I write today? How many queries did I send? How many rejected, requested a full and rejected, offered rep? How many books have I written, and is that too many or too few?
I think about numbers with this newsletter ā how many subscribers do I have? How can I get more? How can I make this project that brings me so much joy feel like itās actually having an impact, prove that itās worth its while?
How can I make the things I do prove that theyāre worth the time they take to create?
I spend a lot of time creating. I work diligently on my books, writing and then rewriting, again and again until I think theyāre ready. I send out this newsletter every week, and that takes time, too. And sometimes, I wonder if itās worth it ā if it even matters; if anyone is watching; if Iām making the smallest of ripples in the ocean of the world.
This newsletter is genuinely one of my favorite writing experiments. I love connecting with authors for the Q&A issues, whether we chat on the phone or via email. Thereās something so energizing about tapping back into the latent journalist in me and coming up with questions, playacting like Iām on a podcast when I get to chat with them live, and in general forging new connections and sharing about authors and works that mean a lot to me.
Iāve found so much fulfillment and reprieve in writing the biweekly āfrom the heartā sections. I love having a place on the internet that I own, where I get to decide what I publish and how I say the things I want to. And āfrom the pageā gives me a chance to think over, synthesize, and repeat back the things Iām learning in my own craft.
I genuinely think Iām doing something pretty special with this newsletter. It warms my heart, and I think the people who read it tend to like it.
But Iām plagued by the thought that I should be reaching more people.
To be clear, itās not a matter of not appreciating current subscribers. There are over 100 of you who get this letter in your inboxes every week, and Iām so utterly, unspeakably delighted by that.
But I have been running this newsletter for over a year, and in my darker moments, Iām plagued by the thought that if I were really a good writer, really good at this newsletter thing, my readership would be growing faster.
If you actually had something to say, people would want to hear it.
If you were better at saying the things on your mind, people would sign up to read them.
If you were more talented as a writer, people would share your words, theyād be compelled, theyād need to shout it from the rooftops.
If you were more than what you are, you would be better at what you do, and you would reap the rewards.
Being inside my own mind is so exhausting.
I think Iāve been having these thoughts since shortly after I started writing on the Internet. Or maybe I have them because of how I got my start ā my first published personal essay was for Seventeen.com. Over the course a few months in 2015 and 2016, I had four essays published on the site. They did fairly well, I think, because up until 2017 or 2018, the Seventeen dot com Twitter account would reshare them regularly.
Maybe that set up unreasonable expectations for me. I was convinced I was on the precipice of something big: the start of my career as a personal essayist, journalist, novelist. I would be internet famous, with hordes of fans flocking to everything I posted, and theyād let me know they loved me.
That was in late 2015.
Itās now early 2024, and I feel like Iāve stopped and started and stopped and restarted my writing career more times than I can count, to the detriment of building a readership1.
Yet I still write. I work on this newsletter every week, and I find it worthwhile. I have over 100 subscribers, most of whom actually open my emails on a weekly basis. That number is smaller than 10,000, smaller even than 200, but itās bigger than it was a year ago today. There is growth, even if it doesnāt move at the speed I like to think it āought to.ā
The truth is, I get a lot out of writing these newsletters. I get to talk to authors for the Q&As, for one, but I also think Iāve deepened my relationships with a lot of subscribers who I was already friends with. Iāve heard from people who felt seen by some of the stories Iāve shared, and that in turn has made me feel less alone. And every view is an ego boost, letās be real.
I donāt have the platform I feel I need to at this point in my career, no. Not so much that I feel Iām owed it, but that I think for someone whoās been writing for as long as I am, I need to have a certain level of platform to prove that I have something worth saying. Like if I donāt, it means thereās something lacking in me.
Thatās bullshit, though. Thatās my insecurity and imposter syndrome rearing its head and trying to swallow me whole.
Everyoneās creative career looks different, takes different turns and twists, and progresses differently over time. Mine has been slow, lingering, and Iāve grown immensely over the years Iāve been writing. I will continue to write, share, and grow, and weāll see where that takes me. Maybe it means Iāll hit 200 subscribers soon. Maybe Iāll ever break 10,000. Maybe Iāll stay where I am, with the people who care about me reading and reacting to my words.
Itās all okay. It is my journey and no one elseās, so Iām the only one who can judge it. And if I choose not to? Then, freedom.
Alla prossima š
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Because, six months on, Palestinians are still being targeted, bombarded, and massacred by Israel. Tens of thousands of lives have been lost, and those who live are experiencing trauma the likes of which those of us who arenāt there can barely fathom. As youāre donating, donāt forget to hold your electeds in Congress and the White House accountable, reminding them that we need a permanent ceasefire as well as a dismantling of the oppressive regime that has colonized Palestine.
Thatās all from me today. I hope you are well-rested, hydrated, and fed. Take care of yourselves and each other. Love you.
ā Karis xoxo
Maybe this is a good thing, though. The person I was at 22 and 23 is not someone Iād want to be beholden to now. Her readership, which skewed conservative and evangelical, would likely not be fond of the person I am now, the things I write now, the stories I tell. Maybe this was inevitable.